Disappointment? it can hurt. Sometimes a little. Sometimes a lot. It can drag you into negative funk for days or weeks.
But suppose you learn how to deal with that disappointment healthier and more helpful way. In that case, it can be less scary and less painful and a stepping stone or learning experience for further personal growth.
First, Accept your Feelings
Disappointment hurts. And that’s fine.
Don’t try to push it away. And don’t try to hide it with a big smile.
I have found that it would work better not to be swept away by such a fascinating impulse.
But instead of accepting my feelings. Put it all in and hurt for a while.
Because that way, it goes faster and has less pain in handling what happened in the long run.
On the other hand, if I refuse to feel honest, those emotions can appear later at unexpected times. And it makes me grumpy, pessimistic or passive-aggressive.
Remember that You are not Disappointed
Just because you’re disappointed, frustrated, or made a mistake and let someone down doesn’t mean you’ve been disappointed or unsuccessful.
And this situation you are in will not last forever, even if I feel that way today.
The Truth is:
Just because you are disappointed today, or someone is disappointed doesn’t mean you will be tomorrow or later.
It doesn’t label you as a disappointment (unless you label yourself).
If you keep moving forward and taking action, you will move on and improve.
Spend Time with Yourself
Instead of getting lost in the pain of negative emotions that can come from disappointment, choose to see it more as something you can learn valuable things (and help you grow).
You can do it by asking yourself a better question.
Maybe you will learn that you can probably communicate better when you are in a similar situation or working with someone else on a task or project.
Or we need to improve the balance between rest and work to avoid mistakes or think more clearly.
You may realize that you need to make a big difference in your life and that you need to spend less time with someone who has let you down many times (or makes you always feel disappointed no matter how hard you are) or not to spend any time at all. Try).
Relocate on what you Still got in Your Life
To move on, shift your effort to what you still got in your life.
People, passion, and what you might sometimes take for granted, for example, the roof on your head and clean water.
By taking advantage of gratitude in this way, I can put things into perspective and let disappointment overwhelm me and keep the week going crazy.
Discuss it with Someone Nearby
As already mentioned, getting a healthier and broader perspective on what happened is an integral part of dealing with disappointment in a better way.
And one of the utmost potent ways to do it is in my experience of shed it on the light and discussing it with someone close to you.
Venting when your friends are just listening allows you to release that inner pressure, sort things out yourself, and accept what happened instead of pushing it away or ignoring it.
And if the two are discussing it, you can see the situation through someone else’s eyes and from a different perspective.
This person can help you ground yourself and avoid making mountains from molehills. And the two of you can come together to start an action plan on how you move forward.
If the Expectations are Perfect, Adjust them
Demanding or expecting perfection from yourself or others often disappoints.
So adjust your expectations a little.
If you’re disappointed with what you did, what someone else did, or how things in your life have changed, ask yourself.
Will this be a problem in 5 years? or five weeks?
It’s one thing that helped me a lot, from making mountains out of molehills and adjusting my expectations.
Another helpful thing is to remind yourself that if you favour the myth of perfection, you will hurt yourself and the people in your life.
Because such myths you may have picked up from movies, songs, and simply what the world or Instagram highlight reels are telling you collides with reality and tends to:
It causes a lot of stress and suffering to you and those around you.
You’ll be afraid again to let someone else down or let down, so you’ll be caught up in procrastinating.
Your expectations are outside of this world so that you will harm or, in some cases, end relationships, jobs, projects, etc.
Putting this reminder at the forefront of my mind and sometimes writing it down on paper helped me adjust my expectations and reduce my suffering and disappointment.
Take a Break
Just focusing on your goals and always working towards them can cause unnecessary stress and cause loss of your perspective.
And sometimes, you need a break to get through the disappointment. So take a break, recharge and have fun.
After you take that time out of your goals and dreams, you will probably be in a better place to accept and learn what happened and move forward again.
When you’re at this higher level, take a moment to see how to improve the balance between work and restful downtime.
I’ve found that balancing these two usually makes it relatively easy to handle setbacks and not go the way you want in a more constructive and mentally central way.
Find Your Energy and Motivation Again with the Help of Others
With the help of others, boost your spirits, motivate and positive thinking.
It can be with the help of conversations with friends, family, or colleagues.
But help (and sometimes in time) from others far away in the world. For example, update your focus and motivation to keep moving toward your dreams in the following ways:
Books (motivating, or perhaps biographies of people you respect) and podcasts.
Movies, TV shows and Youtube channels.
Online forums and social media channels.
Spend anywhere from 10-60 minutes with one or several such sources to find new energy and changes in your thinking.
Find a Small Step and Start Moving Forward Again
After accepting the situation, you will probably learn something from it, motivate yourself, and move forward again.
However, you don’t have to make a giant, bold leap.
When I’m in this place myself, I usually try to come up with the start of a small action plan to at least move
forward. I do it with someone, like a wife, for example, or on my own.
Next, you’ll break the plan down into smaller action steps. And let’s get down to the first step of these steps.
Once we start procrastinating with that step, we will break it down into even smaller steps and act like one of them.
By improving my self-esteem, I avoided being dragged into self-criticism or negative emotions after disappointment.
It also helped me handle setbacks with an equal mind and more emotional stability without disappointing myself as often as I used to.
It also makes it easier to feel better about yourself without blaming others, learn more from this situation and get better results next time.
So how do you improve your Self-Esteem?
Here are some of the most helpful tips and habits I’ve found:
Write down three things in the evening that you are grateful for yourself.
Spend 20 – 30 minutes at the end of the day asking yourself. What are three things you can evaluate about yourself?
Write down your answers on your notebook, laptop, or smartphone. It will help you start to focus on positive things about yourself and stop being so self-critical.